"Always greener"

The new series "Green Diversity" is in full swing! That is why I would like to write today about a topic that has often come to my mind: the widespread "The Grass Is Greener" syndrome. 

In my posts there is always a spark of truth, as also in this one. Many people know this saying, but the message goes much deeper.

Many people are driven by longings, wishes or even just addictions. It is a cycle that everyone goes through or breaks through. When we are completely in our element and pursue big future plans, you often hear people say that on the other side the grass seems greener. But is that really so?

If we look at this, then one must first ask oneself what standard I actually set for life. We humans tend to symbolize things or beautify them, especially when something good comes out of it for us. And exactly in such moments we can very easily miscalculate.

In my opinion, this saying perfectly shows how one can easily drift in the completely wrong direction. Sometimes amazing things happen in life, you live in the peak phase of your best years or you have finally found someone you can trust. And for some, then the greatest form of insecurity strikes exactly at this point: Is there perhaps something better?

In my opinion there is a very simple answer to that: no.

People live in phases and what is perceived as very good for us in exactly this phase is also what makes us happy. If we can co-determine things within a framework where it fits, then out of that can even arise the best thing one has ever had.

I will give an example here: If one has met a wonderful person and feels happiness with that person, but constantly in the background the "what-if" cinema is running, then it is not lasting happiness but a state. From experience I can say that such stories do not end well. What I can say, however, is:

"If one stands by a person and their flaws out of deepest conviction, then there is not the question of what is better, but how one can make it better in order to make it lasting."

Whoever constantly and everywhere searches for the next best thing or asks where the grass is greener will possibly lose the best chance of his life. And I have seen and followed many stories where it has come to exactly that.

With this I do not want to say that the grass cannot be greener, but when we make important life decisions that determine our well-being and our feelings, then one should be determined in it.

My personal reflection on this topic is that people who live according to this principle carry an instability within themselves. We have all had this thought, but it is above all about the context. There is a big difference between speaking of a better and more stable life and speaking of a personality disorder. Everyone wants a better and secure future. But someone who already lives in good circumstances or has a wonderful person at their side and still does not recognize the grass as such has, in my eyes, failed.

The saying gives cause for hope for a better life, especially when the motives for it are positively justified. But to constantly search for something new at the expense of others or out of greed is not honorable but defenseless.

Do we only think that the grass over there is really greener or have we missed the chance to enjoy the most beautiful green when it was still green?

When the leaves fall, you'll see.